Who this is for
The Money Side of a Parent Moving to Assisted Living
A move into assisted living changes almost every line of a parent’s budget at once. One large monthly bill replaces several small ones, the house still has its own costs until it is sold or let, and the mail goes to two places for months. It is also a moment when families most need to see clearly how long the money will last.
What changes in the budget
The facility fee becomes the largest payment by far, often with extra charges for levels of care, medication management and services that change as needs change. Check each invoice against the agreement, because care-level charges are adjusted after assessments and the bill can rise without much notice.
Meanwhile the house costs money until something is decided: property tax, insurance, utilities at a lower level, maintenance and perhaps a mortgage. Insurers often need to be told that a house is unoccupied, and policies can lapse if they are not.
The first ninety days
- Change of address filed, and billers told directly so nothing is lost in forwarding
- Utilities at the house reduced or set to a minimum, and the insurer informed
- Subscriptions, phone and internet plans at the house cancelled or moved
- The facility’s billing set up to pay from your parent’s account on a fixed date
- Long-term care insurance claim started, if there is a policy
- A monthly budget showing income against the new costs
How long the money lasts
Once a few months of real figures exist, the family can see what a month costs and how long savings last at that rate. That is the starting point for decisions about selling the house, applying a long-term care policy, or planning for Medicaid if it may be needed later. Medicaid in particular has strict rules about assets and gifts, and an elder law attorney should be involved early. Clean monthly records make that conversation faster and cheaper.
When the house is sold
The sale proceeds land in your parent’s account and have to be accounted for. The purchase price and the cost of major improvements over the years affect any tax on the sale, so the records of what was paid matter, and they are often in a filing cabinet that is about to be emptied. Your bookkeeper can gather those records before the house is cleared and give them to your parent’s tax preparer.
A Parent Moving to Assisted Living: common questions
Can the facility bill be paid automatically?
Usually yes, and it should be checked each month against the agreement before the payment goes out.
Who handles the long-term care insurance claim?
Your parent or their agent signs the claim. Your bookkeeper can gather the invoices and records the insurer asks for and track the reimbursements.
Should we sell the house straight away?
That is a family decision, often with tax and Medicaid implications worth discussing with an attorney and a tax preparer first.
What your bookkeeper can take on
- Daily Money Manager Services
- Bill Paying Services for Elderly Parents
- Caregiver Payroll Service
- Organizing a Parent's Paperwork
- Online Accounts and Passwords for a Parent
- Monthly Money Reports for the Family
Also written for Adult Children Managing a Parent's Bills, Long-Distance Caregivers, Siblings Sharing the Job, After a Spouse Dies, Older Adults Who Want Help With Their Own Bills, Executors and Trustees Who Need the Records in Order and Families Recovering From a Scam.
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